As parents, we want our children to feel confident, loved, and valued. But sometimes, they may struggle with self-esteem, doubting their worth. Psalm 139:13 gives us a beautiful reminder of how precious they are:
“For you created my inmost being; you knit me together in my mother’s womb.” (Psalm 139:13, NIV)
God has carefully and wonderfully made each of our children, and it’s essential they understand their value in Him. However, if your child is struggling with low self-esteem, it may not always be easy to notice. Here are 5 signs that your child may be experiencing low self-esteem:
- Negative Self-Talk: If your child frequently puts themselves down, saying things like “I’m not good enough” or “I can’t do anything right,” this may indicate they are struggling with self-esteem.
- Avoiding Challenges: Kids with low self-esteem may avoid trying new things or facing challenges because they fear failure.
- Seeking Constant Validation: If your child constantly seeks praise and validation, it could be a sign that they are unsure of their worth.
- Social Withdrawal: Does your child seem withdrawn or hesitant to engage in social activities? Low self-esteem can cause kids to retreat from social situations.
- Overly Critical of Themselves: Children with low self-esteem may be overly critical, focusing on their flaws or mistakes more than their strengths.
So how can we, as parents, help them in these moments? Here are 5 ways you can approach your child and help them overcome low self-esteem:
- Affirm Their Value in God: Remind your child that they are uniquely made by God. Share verses like Psalm 139:13, reinforcing that their worth comes from being created by Him.
- Praise Their Efforts, Not Just Their Results: Help your child see the value in trying their best, even when they don’t succeed. Focusing on effort rather than outcomes builds resilience and confidence.
- Encourage Them to Take Small Risks: Gently nudge your child to try new things, even if it feels uncomfortable. Celebrate their courage in stepping outside their comfort zone.
- Model Positive Self-Talk: Be mindful of how you talk about yourself around your child. Model confidence and self-acceptance so they can learn to do the same.
- Pray with Them: Spend time in prayer, asking God to help your child see themselves as He does—fearfully and wonderfully made.
We’ve also created a one-minute devotional video called “Low on Self-Esteem?” aimed specifically at kids. It offers practical and faith-based tips for overcoming feelings of low self-worth, reminding them that God has made them special.
At Tween Xstream, we believe it’s so important for kids to know their value in Christ and to develop a strong sense of self-worth. We’re here to support you in guiding your child through the challenges of self-esteem, reminding them that they are fearfully and wonderfully made.
In Christ’s love,
Eon
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